Your Body, Mind, Happiness Connection

Ignore Your Body’s Messages and They’ll Only Get LOUDER

Ever feel like you’re stuck in a certain spot? And you turn on the TV or pass a bookstore and a certain message keeps jumping out at you? And your brain is like, “Hmmm . . . that’s weird. I’ve been thinking about that a lot lately. Why does that keep happening?”

Well, hang onto your shorts because I’m about to get really deep.

In regards to these returning messages, I believe they’re the very things we need to pay attention to. Some part of us, our intuition, our soul . . . is calling this “something” to our attention. I mean, in the general blur of daily routines (working, eating, sleeping, dropping the kids off here and there. . .ok, not me, but maybe you. . . sleeping again, starting the whole thing over the next morning) well, things get missed. If you don’t pay attention (i.e. Take the hint), the message keeps coming and can start to affect you in physical ways. Maybe it shows up as headaches, tummy troubles, misery . . . a general sense of being stuck, an inability to change direction or move forward.

Those feelings only keep coming and they start getting LOUDER, as in we become more miserable.

How to Listen to Your Body’s Messages

So the question becomes, what do we do about it? If we assume that our emotions are our body’s way of telling us something isn’t right, maybe we can start there.

According to the gurus Esther and Jerry Hicks, authors of “Money, and the Law of Attraction,” as soon as we become aware that our emotional state is off (i.e. we experience negative emotion in some way), that’s a sign that we’re out of sync with our soul’s desire (note: our soul basically wants to us to be happy little creators in this lovely universe) and when we experience negative emotions, we need to pay attention and change our thoughts. In other words, imagine life as we want it to be, not as it is.

Esther and Jerry call it a ‘pivot,’ which I love because it reminds me of basketball (even though I sucked at it in high school), but if we think about going in one direction, then stopping and pivoting, it’s a very helpful visual. The pivot goes something like this . . . after you’ve come up with your own personal list of wants, imagining all the good things that could come from them (positive aspects), then you keep them rolling through your head (in a sense of guaranteed expectation). Then, when your body reacts in any kind of a negative way, pay attention and slowly shift your thoughts back to the positive.

How to Turn Your Thoughts from Negative to Positive (to bring good things)

WHAT DO I WANT?  Example: I want an abundance of money to flow into my life.

WHAT ARE THE PLUSSES?  More freedom to travel, can shop at Dierburg’s whenever I want (mm-hmm), purchase a second home, start my sustainable living retreat, etc.

OH, NO! (A bill arrives.) I’m bummed because I barely have enough to pay it.

And now  . . . PIVOT! (Turn your thoughts around . S.L.O.W.L.Y.)

Jerry and Esther Hicks talk about the fact that you can’t go from feeling super negative to super positive . . . it’s a baby step process. You start to tell your story as you want it to be . . . Start with something slightly positive like  . . . “This isn’t so bad. I can swing it. I paid all the bills last month and made it just fine. I’ll do it again. Good things seem to happen when I least expect it. I’m going to get a call any day now about XYZ job. Things will turn around. They always do . . .”

And eventually you get up to . . . “I look forward to having more money in my life. I look forward to the freedom. I’ve always wanted to travel to LaLa Land. It’s coming. It’s on its way. I have a good feeling about it . . .”

When you feel your body getting calm and you have no more tension or worry (or less tension and worry), you’re on your way.

Now . . . practice, practice, practice!

♥ I recommend you pick up Jerry and Esther’s book about the Law of Attraction because it’s a delight to read. If you’ve read my other blogs, you know I’m a bit of an optimist but even if you aren’t, it’s the sort of philosophy you can easily latch onto and incorporate into your life. Like I told my sweet beau the other day, worrying about things never got me what I wanted so I’m going to try the opposite of that and stop worrying and see how that turns out. This book has turned around my thinking: Money and the Law of Attraction

And guess what? Great things HAVE been happening. Truly. It’s nothing short of amazing.

Why Does Our Intuition Decline As We Get Older?

Regarding the above, I could just as easily have asked . . . “Why do we stop listening to our soul’s advice as we get older?”

But intuition works, too. My personal belief is that American society (unlike Eastern societies) thinks ‘gut feelings’ aren’t as reliable as scientific “I-can-see-it data,” but I don’t believe that to be true. I’ve sure you’ve had those moments when you sensed something scary was about to happen. Or you knew that your man/boss/best friend was not being up front about something only because you felt like something was off. Unfortunately, we often go about trying to either prove or disprove our gut feelings and that sort of defeats the purpose. Trusting that part of us . . . just like our intellect . . . is an important step in our personal happiness. The two work hand in hand. Paying attention to one at the expense of the other isn’t a good thing. In fact, I believe we need to strengthen our intuition. As for me, I do that by meditating. (Check out my blog on meditation.) Whenever I’m feeling off, I meditate. It re-centers me, grounds me, gets my head screwed back on straight. I cannot say enough good things about this very simple tool.

And speaking of good tools to help you with, well . . . life stuff, I recently discovered a pair of life coaches who do wonderful things. Love them! ♥ Click on this link from the girls at Clarity on Fire: Access Your Wisdom  I’m keeping this one on my re-read list.

Additional Words of Wisdom Regarding Life Struggles

  • Don’t be so hard on yourself.
  • Tell yourself you love yourself every day. (Sounds weird, but trust me, you need it.)
  • Remind yourself that this will all work itself out in the long run. I use the words . . . “Everything is working in Divine Right Order . . .” but if that’s too much for you, find your own words of comfort. “This too shall pass” often does the trick.
  • Remember that you’re doing the best you can in this moment (with the awareness that you have) so don’t beat yourself up. None of us have time machines. You can’t go backwards. You can only go forward.
  • Take a walk. Pay attention to the beauty around you. (Sometimes it takes an hour, but you’ll eventually see it.)
  • When you notice icky feelings, pay attention and PIVOT! Since like attracts like, your personal vibration goes up when you’re happy and better things come your way. Side note: I imagine my vibration (when I’m happy) sounding like a high-pitched chime, which in turn attracts a similar sound to the type of friends, co-workers, etc that I have around. And when I’m down, my vibration sounds like a big bass drum and I attract that negativity to myself. It reminds me to pay attention and PIVOT.


Here’s to happiness and unlimited prosperity!

Much love BW’s,



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Cracked, dry skin relief that’s soopah cheap! Queen Helene Cocoa Butter (Face and Body Creme)

When it comes to beauty blogs, I’ve noticed a lot of them seem to cater to higher-end products and God knows I LOVE those higher-end products myself and slather them on religiously whenever I can. But you know, sometimes, I mean sometimes … when your new boyfriend is complaining that his hands are so cracked that he can barely stand to bend his fingers to touch your lovely bod … well, a girl’s gotta find a product that works. FAST! We’re talking PRIORITIES! I mean, I finally have a fella … and I’d like to keep him!

$3 to save your End-of-Winter Skin . . . Bye bye bone dry! … Bye bye cracked skin!

He found this innocent little jar for just a few dollars online. Our end-of-winter skin wasn’t responding to any of my fancy schmancy goos so we slathered this stuff on and felt instant results. (I’m thinking it’s the beeswax because I’ve tried products with mineral oil as a primary ingredient and nothing happened). I have friends whose skin gets much drier than mine (as in, painfully dry) and I’ve seen the transformation it creates on skin that’s in rough shape. If you’re EXTREMELY DRY, you’ll have to apply it over the course of a week, but I witnessed the changes in my boyfriend’s hands overnight so I know it will work the very driest of the dry. (Pssst … I’d only share this with friends, but he actually slept in those thin plastic gloves after slathering on the Queen. You know, the kind in haircolor boxes? And it worked!) Please don’t mention this to anyone else. He prefers to think of himself as a ‘manly man’ and would be mortified/ticked if he knew I’d mentioned this.

No Animal Testing (Me & the bunnies say yay!)

INGREDIENTS: Paraffinum Liquidum (Mineral Oil), Aqua (Water), Beeswax, Paraffin, Theobroma Cacao (Cocoa) Seed Butter, Sodium Borate, Lanolin, Stearyl Alcohol, Benzyl Benzoate, Coumarin, Fragrance, Yellow 5, Yellow 6, Red 33, Red 40

It’s worth a mention because I lauded praises all over an earlier body creme that did not contain parabens, and this one does (10th of 16 ingredients: Benzyl Benzoate), which can mimic estrogen and disrupt the body’s hormone system. In males, it can decrease sperm count (Yikes! I may wait to mention that to my beau). Having said that, parabens are nearly everywhere and weeding them out will take some time. So, if you’re concerned … Use the Queen for a short stint, then switch to the really expensive stuff that doesn’t contain them. And don’t get me started on the other stuff in my cabinets. I’ll probably have to toss nearly everything I own and buy stock in the Honest Company.

Queen Helene Cocoa Butter Face and Body Creme


Here’s to new beaus who are a delight to be around!

Much love BW’s, Nina

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Keep “Calm” in your “Natural” cupboard

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I must be on a ‘don’t go without this after forty’ kick (see previous blog regarding primer) but this product is for your insides, not your outside and I cannot go without it. It does everything you think it would and then some, which is why I start having withdrawals when I can see the bottom of the container. Luckily for me, my local health food store carries it and I buy it religiously.

Why is Natural CALM Plus Calcium so good for you?

Natural Calm Plus Calcium contains calcium, magnesium, potassium, vitamin D3 & vitamin C … AND … it contains high enough amounts and in correct ratios (2 or 3 parts Magnesium to 1 part Calcium) that it can actually make a difference in your well-being. This combo of minerals and vitamins work in tandem with each other.

Ever wonder why Calcium is added to nearly everything we ingest, but we still have an enormous problem with osteoporosis in this country? It’s because Calcium absorbs better with Magnesium and Vitamin D. In addition, because you dissolve Natural Calm in hot water, its absorption rate is outstanding. As for me and my sensitive stomach, I wait until its totally cooled and then I drink it in 3 different spurts . . . as in, a little in the morning, a little in the afternoon, a little in the evening.  It helps you to sleep since it relaxes you, but don’t over-do the dosage. I generally use a full teaspoon, but you can go up to a tablespoon. However, build up to that because since Magnesium ‘relaxes’ everything, that includes your bowels. (Yes, really.)

What kind of physical symptoms indicate a shortage of Magnesium?

Shortages of Magnesium may show up as:

  • an inability to fall or stay asleep
  • muscle cramps & spasms
  • nervousness/irritability
  • facial tics/twitches
  • headaches
  • heart palpitations
  • PMS
  • chronic pain
  • constipation

But I eat a pretty healthy diet, I think!

I rarely hear people say they eat like crap, even when they eat like crap. Truth is, most of don’t know what a balanced diet is these days. If we hit the fast food joint 3 days out of the week instead of our usual 4, we think we should become nutritionists and tell everybody what to eat. If you regularly eat a lot of processed foods (i.e. stuff in boxes that tell you to add water or meat or butter, or if you consume a lot of fast food (meat-meals) and skip your veggies, you are probably low on all kinds of things, including Magnesium.  The bottom line is to listen to your body. If you experience any of the symptoms listed above and it seems to be a pretty consistent pattern, you’re probably onto something. Caution: If you take medications of any kind, be sure to speak with your doctor as Magnesium can affect the absorption of several types of medication, including antibiotics. When in doubt, ask!

Diets that encourage LOW Magnesium levels:

  • heavy sugar consumption (sugary cereals, fast food, bread, soda)
  • heavy soda consumption (dark-colored sodas contain phosphates that deplete your magnesium)
  • caffeine (coffee, tea, energy drinks)
  • certain meds (heart or asthma medication, birth control pills, diuretics, hormone replacement therapy)

Natural CALM plus Calcium is a great lifelong habit!

Drinking a glass of this a day has become a habit of mine, one that I admit I can’t live without. I’ve tried skipping it, but the toe cramps returned with a vengeance! (Ever seen a toe go straight up in the air… and stay there? It’s brutal.) Drinking this once a day keeps what ails me far, far away! I’m hooked. I’m sold. I believe you will be, too. Just start slowly, don’t overdo it, and build to no more than one tablespoon a day.

SFC (SoopahFreakinCool) Rating for Natural Calm + Calcium = 5 Stars 

Here’s to lifelong habits and long days without toe cramps! 

Much love BW’s, Nina

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How to have a flawless complexion after 40

Having a flawless complexion after 40 may sound like something akin to rocket science or dating a rock star, but I’ve found something that actually works. Ok, it isn’t permanent but it will work for you all day long, which is pretty cool & no one will know you aren’t that close to perfect. Well, maybe your best friend will,  but she won’t tell! Now that I’ve discovered these little miracle workers, I can’t go out without them (even if I don’t put on make-up).

Primers: the sneaky little miracle workers hidden in plain sight!

You don’t have to look far to find them. Truth be told, they’re everywhere. Hidden in plain sight right in front of our faces at every drugstore, beauty bin and major department store. Maybe I didn’t think they were necessary because I don’t wear a lot of foundation and my complexion is decent (not perfect, but decent).

But still, there are those little lines drive me bananas: crepey lids (Tip: buy matte shadow as well; say no to shiny!), vertical lip lines, some creases around the eyes. Voila! Between the three of these primers, they are all, if not totally gone, greatly diminished. Breathe a sigh of relief when standing in direct sunlight knowing you’re ‘optimally’ camouflaged.

Apply primer under make-up (all the way down to your décolletage), but feel free to re-apply during the day & just before going out. Right on top of your make-up! Just be delicate about it so you don’t have to re-do your entire face.

Here’s how to create the most flawless complexion possible:

  1. Apply Master Prime by Face Studio from forehead to décolletage. It’s got a medium texture (not too thick or thin) or if you prefer something that hides things a bit more, use the Garnier 5 Second Blur. It’s thicker, but you can’t see it on your skin. I love love love this product for all over, but it’s especially great for upper lip lines which are very hard to disguise, as well as horizontal lines on your neck.
  2. Put a large dollop of CIRCA Fresh Canvas Anti-stress Primer (comes in clear or illuminating, texture is runny) with a smaller dollop of your favorite foundation. Mix together, then spread or use a large complexion brush to apply to face and neck. Because I’m pale, I also add a bit to my décolletage (just a little).
  3. Take a tiny amount of Garnier 5 Second Blur and smear your lip lines or any lines you have that drive you bananas, especially great for deeper lines.
  4. Finish your face. Avoid shiny cheeks, eyes & cakey finishing powder (use only something mineral-based) and if you use powder to control shine, just dab the spots that shine, don’t press it all over your face.
  5. At the end of the day, if you’re going out, I like to take a small amount of CIRCA Fresh Canvas Anti-stress Primer and touch up the under-eye/cheek area. Re-apply blush if necessary (but with a light hand).

Soopah-Freakin-Cool Rating for Master Prime, CIRCA Fresh Canvas & Garnier 5-Second Blur = 5 stars!! (But if I had to buy only one, 5-Second Blur would be my top fave.)


Here’s to perfectly camouflaged complexions that your friends will envy.

Much love BW’s, Nina

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Meditation . . . not the hippie chick thing I thought it was

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I’ve been meditating for the past seven days. Yeah, yeah . . . I admit I missed a day or two in there, but I’m not shooting myself in the foot for it. I’m looking at it like someone would on a lifetime diet, imagining that during my daily caloric intake I broke down and ate a delectable piece of cake. Just once. I screwed up just once.

Truly not the end of the world as we know it.

I bought the 21-day Oprah/Deepak guided meditation tape on the Energy of Attraction. Basically, attracting what you want in your life. It’s surprisingly enjoyable and I love doing it! Meditation, that is. If you’ve never heard Deepak speak, he has the most soothing voice on the planet. Just hearing him speak makes my blood pressure drop twenty points. Seriously. He’s super Zen. Only $49.99 for 3 weeks of guidance!

Oprah and Deepak Energy of Attraction

Every day, Oprah and Deepak speak on a different topic relating to how energy works in the universe, how we attract it, and why a calm mind can bring to you the things your heart desires, the very stuff your deepest self desires. It makes perfect sense to me. A frazzled mind with frazzled thoughts brings scattered pieces of things, and sometimes not the good things we want. A calm mind with a clear sense of purpose will allow the good out and the good to come back in. On my particularly troubling days, usually related to a particularly troubling ex of mine, I’ve sat down and listened to the same day’s meditation twice in a row.

Even my dogs are meditating. Well, sort of. Their breathing calms and then they drift off . . . Snoring.

Why, yes . . . of course, my dogs are Zen!

After Oprah and Deepak speak for a few minutes, giving you a little life lesson to focus your thoughts on, a different focus each day, such as “My deepest desire is completeness,” you close your eyes and beautiful, soothing music plays in the background. As for the actual meditation, you simply breathe and repeat a mantra for twenty minutes when your thoughts start to drift. Surprisingly, drifting thoughts is normal. I don’t think much about them other than letting them drift away, like clouds. Really. In the meantime, I simply keep repeating my mantra and focusing on my breathing. By the time I’m done, I feel amazing! Truly amazing.

Meditation is such a gift to the world.

I’m surprised at my strong, positive reaction to meditation, mostly because I’m not exactly a hippie chick. But I do enjoy doing things that bring me peace of mind. Which, of course, is PRICELESS. I mean, if you’ve ever not had it, you can fully grasp the gist of what I’m saying. Prior to this, I never understood the purpose or the benefit of meditation. It seemed silly to me that I could just sit comfortably on my floor—in my favorite spot, propped up by a couple of pillows, room dimmed, legs extended (I couldn’t possibly pretzel my legs like true Yoga people)—and just be there … Not think … Just relax into the moment.

Meditation will be a part of my life for the rest of my life. I’m becoming addicted—in a good way. I can’t wait to get home, slip into something comfortable, my dogs at my feet ready to snore (uh, meditate) and hear Oprah and Deepak in my living room. Guided meditation is good for the soul. It’s good for what ails you. It’s good for just about everything you can think of, in my opinion.

Try it for a month. I think you‘ll love it. Give it some time to grow on you and don’t be too hard on yourself if your thoughts start to drift. After all, there’s no such thing as ‘perfect’ meditation. If you’re attempting it, it’s helping. It will develop into a habit. (I think it takes 21 days to create a new one?) Have a little faith in you. Know that you are creating wonderful things for yourself.

Here’s to inner peace and attracting wonderful things to you.

Much love BW’s, Nina

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